Stay at Home Moms, how to stay sane with a crying baby

It is certainly not easy to be around with a crying baby, let alone to stay sane! However, you are not alone. All mothers have been through this and once the baby smiles to you, you will immediately forget all what this little thing made you go through.

It is important for new mothers to receive as much information as possible about the needs of babies and to try their best to satisfy them. It is simply because the baby can not signal what it needs except by crying and the more you satisfy it, the better you feel at ease. So let me pose a question. Why do babies cry?

It is usually because they are feeling hungry, cold or warm, feeling pain or having a fever.

If you satisfy all these needs and it still cries, then it is probably feeling bored and needs your company. You have to realize that babies need a lot of love and care. Holding the baby between your arms can make it stop screaming. I am not saying that you make this a habit. Try to be balanced and judge when you carry the baby and swing it. There is another fact that new mothers have to be aware of. New born babies need swinging as they were feeling secure in your womb by being swung with your movements.

So if the baby keeps on screaming and you started feeling that you are loosing your temper, just collect yourself together and stay calm. I know it is difficult to be calm with a screaming baby around. But you love your baby, don’t you? So do not listen to this crying. Just follow Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) in controling your anger. Say Ta'awwuz “ I SEEK ALLAH'S PROTECTION FROM THE CURSED DEVIL", then do Wudu (Abulution ) or drink water and change your position. So if you are standing sit, or lie down. I would recommend to change your clothes, take the baby stroller down to the street and put the baby inside it and go with it for a walk. This will do both of you good. You will both breathe fresh air and you will get the chance to control your nerves by just doing something else as only thinking of how to keep the crying baby silent. The noise in the street and the swinging will help it stop crying and it will probably feel sleepy.

My advise to you is never refuse help from others. You probably stay nights awake which drives you crazy. So if another member of your family or from your husband’s family offered you help, accept it immediately with a smiling face. This will help relief some of your nervousness.

I would like to share with you a very good trick that I used with my new born daughter to help her sleep at night, well for some hours. Hopefully it will be also helpful to you. I used to take her in the stroller every evening and go out with her. The fresh air and the swinging made her feel sleepy. This was followed by a shower (every other day), and so she was ready for bed, really tired and sleepy. You can try the shower in summer time otherwise I recommend only the stroller choice.

My last advise to you is to learn to control your nerves when your baby drives you crazy with its crying. Children are a blessing from Allah and we have to take care of them. So don’t forget that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said that anger is from the devil and that the powerful is the one who controls himself when angry.